High Value Looks Different a 50

At 50+, “high value” hits different. It’s not about money, status, or six-packs — it’s about peace, emotional maturity, and consistency. In this episode, we get real about what women truly want at this stage in life: honesty, effort, and energy that feels safe. Because at this age, we’re not building men — we’re building peace.

✨ Watch, laugh, and relate as we unpack love, standards, and what “high value” really means now.

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Chapters

• 0:00 Setting The Stage: What Is “High Value”
• 2:35 Social Media Clips And Gold Digger Pranks
• 6:20 Reading The “High-Value” Definitions
• 10:30 What Value Means At 25 Versus 55
• 14:40 “Pour Into Me”: Intelligence Over Income
• 22:00 Partners, Insecurity, And Dimmed Light
• 28:30 Beyond Buzzwords: Character And Work

Transcript

SPEAKER_03: 0:00

I've been seeing a lot of stuff all summer about high value men, what you bring to the table. Always asking women what they bring to the table. We never rarely ask men what they bring to the table.

SPEAKER_01: 0:09

It's actually more good in the world. Yes. It's actually more good in the world, period, than bad. We just focus on the bad. Because it's so bad that that's all we know. Yeah. And we forget about all the good.

SPEAKER_07: 0:21

If I sit here and take care of you, you say when I walk out the door, you can't ask me nothing. You can't ask me when you come home.

SPEAKER_03: 0:32

I think a lot of single mother homes, a lot of them have never seen healthy relationships. And we don't know what that looks like. And if you look off, if you look like society, if you go off of society, you you gonna get close. I wanted to read y'all first what the dictionary says a high-value man is, and then what the description of a high value woman is and the conditions. So a high value man is this is Legra.

SPEAKER_06: 0:59

This is Stephanie, this is Cherie, and this is Ivanya.

SPEAKER_02: 1:09

And this is Timeless and Unfiltered, where we are spilling the tea on midlife one laugh at a time.

SPEAKER_03: 1:19

Hey everybody, this is Legra with Timeless and Unfiltered. This is Stephanie. This is Sharice. This is Ivanya. And we are here to spill the tea on midlife one laugh at a time. All right, ladies, this we're gonna deep dive into some stuff. We might as well just jump right in for this season two. We talking crap. Okay, so all summer I have been hearing about high value men and what women want in this high value man. And y'all know I you know I go down the rabbit hole. You know, sometime when I'm starting and we start getting texts.

SPEAKER_04: 1:54

What is this? What is this? What else does all that speech?

SPEAKER_03: 1:58

What is that stupid stuff be popping up on my phone, which especially the lady that be reading the books. Oh, yeah. The little children's books.

SPEAKER_07: 2:06

Oh, I love that. The little children's books, but they nasty.

SPEAKER_03: 2:09

That just cracks me up all the time. But I've been seeing a lot of stuff all summer by how high value men. A lot of stuff about what you bring to the table. Like always asking women what they bring to the table. We very rarely ask men what they bring to the table. Right? Women, what they bring to the table. And y'all know, like I said, I go down the rabbit hole and I start watching all my little, you know, I love all my little ratchet stuff. I don't post it, but I love it.

SPEAKER_01: 2:34

That's your guilty pleasure.

SPEAKER_03: 2:35

That's my guilty pleasure. That's my break where I need to take a break for a minute. I just go down the rabbit hole. And I'm always watching the episodes with um the gold digger pranks, which is probably one of my favorite. But at the same time, it gets on my nerves. Like I be rooting for the young girls, like, okay, she's not gonna be a gold digger. She's not gonna be a gold digger. And they get in the car. Well, first of all, they they see a gentleman walks up to him, introduces himself. Hi, I'm so-and-so or whatever. You look beautiful today. Uh are you talking to me? I can't believe you're even talking to me. And he's like, What are you talking about? I just said, hi, how you doing? Uh no, you don't look like you, you, you don't have no money. You don't look like you did the that's that's the opening hello.

SPEAKER_07: 3:14

Do you think that's a skit or is it real?

SPEAKER_03: 3:16

No, I'm telling you. Because I really don't think so. I don't think all of them that terrible. But no, they usually have the, yeah, they have the camera across the street. They have a guy usually, and sometimes he'll say, like, because a couple of them get wild. And he'll be like, ma'am, you're being recorded. Like, there's my and he'll point out the cameraman across the street.

SPEAKER_07: 3:36

Like he would have to tell them that anyway, because you can't just post random people. Well, you can't interact with that. You could get their permission after. Well, you don't even have to have their permission.

SPEAKER_03: 3:45

No, I don't think, I don't think you have to. I'm gonna sue you. You walking down the sidewalk and you have like anywhere, everywhere. Yeah, you have walking down the sidewalk. I introduce myself, I say hello, you tell me how a couple people are like, well, I don't like fat boys, or I don't like this, I don't like that. And he'd be like, you know what? I'm sorry, you have a good day. And she keep walking. Uh, first of all, let's start with that. She walking. Let's start with that. And then secondly, then he goes to his Lamborghini, or he goes to his, you know, whatever car he's driving. And you will see them young ladies turn around. Sometimes they run, like sprinting back. Now he in the car, they tapping on the window. And I, it's my guilty pleasure because I love it. But sometimes I do, I be sitting there rooting for him, like, come on now. We we we not this bad, y'all. We really not this bad, but yeah, it's clear. Clearly, it's that bad. And of course, everybody's like, you know, all of this, you know, and shaking their butt, you know, he'll say, do a 360, and she does a 360. I need to get, oh, it's hot out here. I need to be able to get in the car. Can I get in the car? And sometimes he lets them in, sometimes they let him in. And it's not just one person, it's several people that do these. And they do them like they're in Atlanta, they're in Dallas, they're in Houston. They're they're all over the place. That's what I said. First of all, you're walking. You're walking. And then um, then they get in the car and he's like, and you know, and he's like, well, you know, I want to get to know you or whatever. You know, I like shopping, I like trips. Let's go on over here. You say, well, where are you where you want to go get something to eat? Let's go to Steak 48. Oh, wow. Let's go to, and he's like, Um, no, okay. And some just outright just, you're gonna pay my bills. Wow. You're not gonna pay my bills, you're not gonna whatever, you're not gonna do this, you're not gonna do that. And I'll be sitting there going, he'd be like, Well, what'd you bring to the table? I'm pretty.

unknown: 5:27

Wow.

SPEAKER_03: 5:28

I'm pretty, my presence, you know, like literally, like literally. That but that's all you're doing. It's pretty. But I love it's it's one guy, and I'm not gonna say his name. But I love it. He said, Okay, so you're basically a pretty bum. Ooh.

SPEAKER_04: 5:45

I love it!

SPEAKER_03: 5:46

I love it. This is my guilty pleasure. So, you know, and and I'm they're always asking, well, what do you bring to the table? What do you bring to the table? So you always keep hearing about high value men, and you'll hear the women say, you know, they're looking for a high value man. But obviously, most of the women, most, because there's some, there's a couple older women walking down the street. No, but it's a couple of a few older women walking down the street that they stop and they they still say the same thing. So, but my thought was what I thought of that was high value when I was 20 and 30. Right. Ain't the same high value that I think of at 55. Now, this is just this is my thought. This is this is very generalization. So I wanted to read y'all first what what the uh the dictionary says a high value man. Okay, and then uh what the description of a high value woman is. A high value. So a high value man is a person with strong character, integrity, emotional maturity, and purpose-driven life, who possesses self-control, discipline, and respect for himself as others. This concept is subjective, but generally includes traits as ambition, strong worth ethic, ethical behavior, clear values, excellent communication skills, and the ability to build positive relationships. The mark of a true high-value man is the ability to generate a six-figure income consistently for at least three years in a row. If you make at least$100,000 a year for at least three years, you've ruled out luck and an anomaly.

SPEAKER_01: 7:19

So are we high-value women?

SPEAKER_03: 7:21

Hello. Hello. So a high value woman is characterized by her self-worth, her maturity, her confidence, her emotional stability, and commitment to personal growth. She possesses strong communication skills, sets healthy boundaries, and expects respectful treatment. She is independent, has her own interests and career, and maintains a positive, compassionate outlook on life while also taking responsibility for her actions.

SPEAKER_07: 7:44

The definition is uh uh what's the word? Misogynistic. Hello.

SPEAKER_03: 7:53

It is so this whole wow, that's an addictionary. Yes, this whole idea of a high value man versus the high value woman. But what what's that what's how is your taken aback? Like and and and but it's the it's the the contrast in me to in my opinion of what you considered what's considered high value. Now for me, high value at 20s, but I I don't know, what what might have been income? Because we weren't partly income.

SPEAKER_07: 8:32

I wasn't worried about how I never was. I never was. I just you love me, I love you, and that was cool. So I was a different So what's high value what's high value, what's high value to you now? What's a high value man to you? Somebody that can pour into me. Because what I realize is at this age I've been through life, I've raised kids, I've worked, gone through VM Pauls and just started businesses and did all this myself. So what can a man bring to me at this age? Someone that can pour into me. Because I'm a sapioosexual, so I like I need you to teach me something. I want to learn from you. Like to me, that's high value. I don't care how much money you can make and stuff like that. Because I know we can combine and do what we gotta do together, but I just I need you to pour into me. And that's what I consider.

SPEAKER_05: 9:22

What do you need in the pour into you when you say pour into you? I need to pour into you.

SPEAKER_07: 9:26

Because I I'm I'm turned on by intellectual conversations and banter. So if you could talk to me about worldly things, uh, talk to me about politics, teach me something I don't know. So my last relationship, most people, you know, might have looked at him like, oh, he was just a regular. That man was so smart. He was so smart and he poured into me, and I just like, oh my god. And so because I like to teach people whatever he taught me, I was, did you know that in the uh if if there was an apocalyptic situation that if you go near the driveway, you can find worms to eat? Like it is weird stuff like that. Look so dope to me. So I'm teaching people I can live on worms, like, but you gotta be next to the semen, that's where they are. Like, I would have never known that.

SPEAKER_03: 10:11

Like, yeah, I don't need I don't know if I need to know that right now, but I'm remembering that.

SPEAKER_07: 10:16

Y'all get some worms to eat. You get your protein, you can live. But things like that, that that was such a turn on to me. And I'm like, oh my god. So I need you to pour into me. I'm sorry. This story just went home. This story just went home. So we're that's my pouring into me. Just be able to talk to me and teach me something. I want to learn.

unknown: 10:39

Okay.

SPEAKER_07: 10:40

I feel like I've always taught everybody, my kids, people, and I'm like, I don't want somebody to TV. Like, I I want someone to teach me.

SPEAKER_03: 10:48

Well, I'm I'm gonna piggyback off of something you just said because you said, you know, I know the last guy that I dated, everybody thought, you know, what was what was what was the word she just used? Everybody thought, you know, he was just a regular guy.

SPEAKER_07: 11:02

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03: 11:02

Or something. Well, I'm gonna tell you from the out from the outside looking in at your relationship. I never looked at him as a regular guy. I thought he was amazing. Hold on, let me let me finish. Amazing from the outside looking in. I'm not in your relationship, so I don't know the relationship parts of it. What I didn't like was not that he was a regular guy. What I didn't like was how you shared how you felt with him. Like some of the insecurities on his end, yeah. But it also affected you.

SPEAKER_07: 11:41

Because I had to keep hearing about it.

SPEAKER_03: 11:43

See, that's what I'm saying. But it affected you. So it wasn't that he was a regular guy, but I love a man that worked with his hands. Let's start with that. I love a man, come fix some shit. I love everything he did. Hello, come fix some shit. Yeah, I still need some shit fixed, but out of respect, I can't call him. But you know what I'm saying? I still need some shit fixed. But I love a man that worked with his hands. I've never been about what his job was or what his career was. I know you know I love country boy. I love a country boy. He was a good old country boy or whatever. But what I didn't like, and again, this is the outside looking in. The outside looking in. The outside looking in. All I'd look at is how does my friend who are you when you're with him? That's the only thing that's ever was important to me. Okay, you know how your mama says, you know how when you have you have you're in a relationship with somebody, and you when y'all have a fight, your mama say, Don't tell me. Yeah. Because when you share certain things about when your relationship is bad, and now y'all back together. Right, y'all done moved on. Your friends are still in this space. So when I say how what I felt was I didn't like some of the things that you shared with your friends of how you felt. Yeah. Because I don't, of course, I don't want nobody that's gonna make my friend not feel sexy and the bomb and you that bitch, and you know what I'm saying? That's that's what makes me like him. So it wasn't that he was an ordinary guy. It was I don't like how you make my friend feel. Now y'all might have moved on.

SPEAKER_07: 13:17

He projected that he every time we was out, he just had something to say about how he looked with me.

SPEAKER_03: 13:25

And then I was like, God, Jesus, I look you, it's all that matters. You know, and I I don't want I'd never like to be in a situation where I have to feel like I have to dim my light. And and and you know what I'm saying, just period. That person that you're with should make you shine. And sometimes I felt like just and this is only based off of our conversations. Or when I let me back to your conversations, because we just usually sat and listened. I didn't like how you felt you had to dim your shine. That's the but it wasn't that I didn't like him. Because you're the shit. For real, for real. Bitch. The shit. And I didn't like sometimes that you didn't feel that way. You know what I'm saying? And that's just based off of what you shared with us. Wasn't that he was a regular guy. So I wanted to clear that up because when you said that, like, I know people thought he was just a regular guy. I liked he was a regular guy. I didn't like how he made my friend feel, or at least what she shared with me.

SPEAKER_07: 14:27

But again, that was his projection, I think, that I always had that that he felt right he would use the word, I feel like the help, I look like the help. And I'm like, not at all. So that started wearing on me, you know, after a while.

SPEAKER_01: 14:42

But I but let me say something, because you know I was sitting over here looking at the couple. The Humbrita High Value fear of crap. When you look at the term, so first of all, I think we take a lot of things and they just become popular, like narcissists, you know, nobody's a therapist, but now everybody's a therapist. Everybody's a narcissist, or this whole high value thing, it's I guess it's the term. Hell, I didn't even know what none of this was, but I just started hearing it. But when you was reading this, and when I look at this, I think for me from our era, I think from our probably our mothers, um that's what I'm not sure that the term I mean that is what they're using now, a high value man. But really, this is just a person with good character. Hello. Good provider. I mean, you threw in a hundred, the only thing that's different is money and a hundred thousand dollars in money.

SPEAKER_00: 15:39

Who the hell made that up?

SPEAKER_01: 15:40

Money. Because now, I will say something, and you and I have talked about this before. But when we talk about strong work ethic, self-control, discipline, respect for himself and others, ambitions, isn't that what anybody would want and value, right? For me, you would think for me personally, you know, and I have that now, but I need somebody who's intentional. Yes, that I know that they see me. We all like right that um the church say amen. That will take care of me. Yeah, five, ten, twenty dollars, right? I'm gonna get 19 and they'll keep the dollar. Not that that's how I want it to happen, but my point is, right? I think that when I was younger, I don't think I know. When I was younger, none of this would have applied to me. I couldn't bring this to the table. So if somebody had a lot, including the money, the confidence, the emotional maturity, and I'm just being, I'm just being 100 right now. I wasn't that girl that could bring it to the table. Right. So attracting a high value, whatever, I was in my struggle. You know what I mean? Like I was just in the struggle trying to find somebody to get it, get it on, get the things, the bills paid with me, because I wasn't shown this, taught this, understood this, know this. So a lot of times when we look at some of the young girls, they don't have anything to bring to the table, but they looking for let's take everything out because I think that as people, we would want male or female, we want all of the attributes. But you looking for the hundred thousand and the this, that, and the third, but you're not bringing, you can't even figure out how to bring it to the table. Right. And in my transparency, I know I couldn't. But all of this is new for me. Today, I am those things now, right? I I get it, I understand it, not judging anybody for having it or not. I think we grow into different spaces. But to define this is where a person is and that's where a person is. Overall, there's just certain characters and uh characteristics that we just want. And there's also things that we have to do to work, because the Lord knows I've done a lot of work. We have to do the work to get to those spaces where when we see it, what I did, I attracted it because I I grew. I took time down to myself to get therapy, to understand who I am, to understand the things that I didn't have, and and and what I was never taught, and some of these terms. It's just like, what in the hell is that? What does that mean? What I do know without saying high value, I do know that there were certain things that I lacked. There was certain so I couldn't call that to me. How could I call something to me that I don't even know what it is? And it just took sitting by myself, getting to know who I am, what I want. And then I just woke up one day and I had it because in some ways I think the I called it to me by doing the work. So you know, I just we just make up these things, and then you have all of these. And not everybody's called pastors who say, you know, or who was the guy, God bless the soul, but who was the guy who passed. Kevin Samuels. You know, we were like Kevin Samuels. And I I don't really know his story or what was happening, how robust that thing was, and what people said, but what I know is that uh yeah, we have to do the work first. I think you no matter where you are, you have to do the work. But if you ask me today, when you talk about this high-value man situation, we fit in this category. Yeah. But we're moved down here. Is it because we're women? Yeah. Hello. Hello, hello.

SPEAKER_07: 20:02

Because we're not supposed to earn and we're not supposed to take the lead and manage our own lives. I think they look to the men to do that, the high-value men. But to me, that's just him being a provider. What they explained to me is back in the day, you got a dude that was gonna take care of the woman, and I'm gonna leave and do this, and then she keeps she's at home with the kids. Because men were providers.

SPEAKER_03: 20:28

And and financial providers.

SPEAKER_07: 20:31

Yes. Let's start with that. Yeah, that's that's all that's saying. And I guess it's still in that mind. Just different times, yeah.

SPEAKER_01: 20:38

Just different different eras, different times, and I think that's just a new term.

SPEAKER_06: 20:42

But we talked about that, but then what about men feeling that they have to be needed? Has that changed? Or do they still feel like they need to be needed now?

SPEAKER_03: 20:49

Well, I think I think even from a male men and women, I think you have to feel like you're being needed. But a lot of times, I I think in this uh modern society, need is financial. So when a woman comes and she don't financially need you for things, like you don't need I don't need you to pay my bills. We ain't got I could take you out to eat. We I d I planned us a vacation and it's already paid for. Like, then it somehow it's translated into financial. That but but again, we get back to that traditionally men were providers. Women stayed at home. We were the we we took care of the home. Now, again, we can get into this whole back and forth. It was it's pros and cons to both sides of it. Because if if we're gonna listen to what society tells us, society tells us men gonna cheat.

SPEAKER_05: 21:44

Oh, yeah.

SPEAKER_03: 21:45

They do. Men gonna cheat. So what do you do when a woman who has nothing, who her whole life depends on her husband, because he's the provider. That's why you've I think you had a lot of women who stayed because they had no choice. Yeah, that's that happens who put up with shit that they had to because they had no choice, because you couldn't, you've never had a job, or you had minimal jobs, or you you have all the children at home, you don't have, you know what I'm saying? So there's it's pros and cons to both sides of that. It's pros and cons to both sides of that. So I think it also depends on how you were you were raised. I was raised by a boss. That's the only way I can describe her. You know what I'm saying? I was raised by a boss. You you you need to always have your own. I don't care how much he has, I don't care what he has, you are you should always have your own, and you should always take be able to take care of yourself. And you should never be left in a situation where you have to put up with anything. Now, does that make me less of a nurturer? No, does that make me less of my feminine energy? Right. And and not that you have to have all these walls up, not that you have to have walls up, but I've always been taught to be self-sufficient. Now, have I always been self-sufficient? No, I didn't have all that either. I like you said, I had to grow into it, I had to learn, you know, and after my divorce, I was I didn't have a thing, you know what I'm saying? And trying to build your life back up. And I relied on family and I relied on friends to help me get through it, but eventually you gotta get through it. You know, you gotta be trying to work towards something, not just saying I'm pretty, right, or not just, you know, I I I I have give you sex. I ain't trying to be funny, he give you sex. You know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_06: 23:40

Yeah, everybody else giving it away to sex. Right, you know what I'm saying? Sex is a dime a dozen.

SPEAKER_03: 23:44

It ain't it can't be about sex. I mean, you can have all the sex in the world, and I mean, but that's not gonna keep him at home. But does that make you less of a less valuable because you have you don't need him financially.

SPEAKER_07: 24:00

Well, what has made me go hard in my life was being that stay-at-home mom, I ain't have to work. Um because he took care of me. And he stayed messing with a million people. And it's like, oh, I take care of you and I give you everything you want. You got your house, you got your cars, yeah, and I can go do what I want to do. And and being with him and going through that and all the cheat, all the shit that came with it. I was like, I will never solely be dependent on a man that was in your 20s. Yes, and that is why I go so hard to take care of me and my kids, even with a partner, like, nah, I'm I'm I'm doing something because, and then I was during my breakup, the um we arguing or whatever, and he said, he said, one of the worst things they could have did was invented women's live.

SPEAKER_03: 24:56

That's so ignorant, I'm sorry.

SPEAKER_07: 24:58

Because he basically like, you should take my shit and not say nothing. Like, you, you, and I was like, Why? And then we had a conversation. Now everything nice I just said about him, I gotta take it back. No, I'm just kidding. He said, if, because I was like, Well, you know, me and shit were the providers. They're supposed to, you know, earn more than women and take. He said, Let me tell you something. If I sit here and take care of you, he said, when I walk out that door, you can't ask me nothing. You can't ask me when I'm coming home. If I'm coming home, you can't ask me nothing. I was like, Really? Like that was his mindset. He's like, nah, if I take care of you, I can't. Well, he just said it out loud.

SPEAKER_01: 25:36

What is that paper at that said emotional maturity?

SPEAKER_07: 25:39

Baby, and I was like, why didn't you just say loyal? Because one of the things self-control, it says self-control, and you need to have control, not be out there in the streets. But they feel like that they got women and they taking care of you. I can do whatever I want to do, and you can't say nothing. Okay, now that's the hearing. Can I say something? Yeah, go ahead.

SPEAKER_01: 25:59

I don't believe that all men cheat. I don't either. I mean, I don't either. Yeah, I mean, but I'm being funny.

SPEAKER_07: 26:06

I'm being funny.

SPEAKER_01: 26:07

I don't think oh, okay. Because when you said that, I look like I'm like they do.

SPEAKER_07: 26:11

Because it's a whole little thing. I think Kevin Hart. Somebody had something that all men don't cheat. Like it was a whole little fun. Was it showing? Yeah, it was a funny thing. That's all the price.

SPEAKER_01: 26:20

I mean, men, women, whoever, you know what I mean? I just really don't believe that. I think that there's some good ones. There, there are. You know what? There's actually more good in the world, I believe. I believe there's actually more good in the world, period, than bad. We just, oh, and y'all know this. We focus on the bad because it's so bad that that's all we know. Yeah. And we forget about all of the good. I don't think, yeah, I definitely know because my son is not a cheater.

SPEAKER_07: 26:50

He's so great. He's like his mom. We'll hunker down with somebody and just ride out, we ain't cheating, we ain't think about so. Yeah, my son, he's not a cheater.

SPEAKER_01: 26:59

Yeah. So I think he'll grow up the display. I believe there's very good disciplined. Yeah.

SPEAKER_07: 27:05

Teresa's on this definition. She's on this definition, man. I also taught my son growing up, too, and I would tell him, like, if they caught me crying or whatever, and I will always tell him, never treat a girl the way you want nobody treating your mom or your sisters. Like, don't cheat, don't hurt her. And I think that like stuck with him. Because he's been with this girl like five years. Straight out of high school. They don't have problems.

SPEAKER_05: 27:30

So what are the dads are teaching them though? What do the dads teach their boys about women?

SPEAKER_03: 27:33

Like, well, I think a lot of uh we have a lot of single mother homes. A lot of them have never seen it. And I'm just gonna be honest, like a lot of us haven't seen healthy relationships. That we don't know what that looks like. And if you look off, if you look like society, you go off of society, you uh you're gonna be lost.

SPEAKER_01: 27:53

You're gonna be lost. I had no idea what a healthy relationship looked like. Um, which is why it just took so long to figure it out, you know what I mean? And understand it, because what is that? For me, that's what it was for me.

SPEAKER_07: 28:11

I didn't provide my kids with an example, but every time I went through some hurt or something, I would talk to them like when you get older, don't allow this. It's like as well.

SPEAKER_03: 28:21

Now, what do you mean you didn't provide them with an example?

SPEAKER_07: 28:24

Of like two parents together, loving in a home and stuff like that. I didn't. They dad was in and out of jail. It was always me by myself. And then, like I said, I didn't bring men around my kids. I was real, like, I ain't playing around with that. So um, it wasn't until they got older that because I told you for a minute, my daughter pulled out her computer, like, hey, you ever thought of online dating? Like my kids was trying to put me on online.

unknown: 28:51

Mama.

SPEAKER_07: 28:52

Mama can get what she wants. You just don't see it. I'm not bringing nobody around y'all. So I I taught from my experience with them, and then it wasn't until they got older that they started seeing me like in relationships with people and things like that.

SPEAKER_03: 29:12

But mom was out in them streets. She was crawling out the window and sneaking back in the house, and she can't. That's what my mother told me.

SPEAKER_04: 29:22

Yeah, I know.

SPEAKER_03: 29:23

Yeah, I do.

SPEAKER_07: 29:24

Yeah, I do. And then the men would feel bad. You must have a man at home. You always getting up, leaving.

SPEAKER_04: 29:31

No, I got kids. Got kids. Like, no.

SPEAKER_03: 29:35

Yeah. But yeah, that that that that debate just always stressed me out. Now we can't gonna go into a whole nother we're gonna address this on the next issue. We don't talk about high value women. Okay? Because I ain't trying to be funny. I think I got four high value women sitting on the couch. I know that. Cause if if we're gonna use let's use the definition of a man. Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_07: 29:57

But I think that's up the whole interpretation.

SPEAKER_03: 30:00

Right. That's what I'm saying. I may not feel like we're high value. And that's that's the issue. That's the question. Because all these traits that you just we read for the man, including the income. Hello? Including the income is a high value woman. But why are we looked at differently? Why are we looked at differently? Little men in a women's body. And why does that make you any why does that make you less of a woman? That you can't be in your feminine energy when you have to be the man of your house all the time. But the right man brings that feminine energy out of it.

SPEAKER_04: 30:41

Okay.

SPEAKER_03: 30:42

Oh, you say, and you become a fly. So look, we'll talk about that on the next episode. We'll talk about that on the next episode because we're gonna be here for two hours when we we we talk about this one. So this is Timeless and Unfiltered. This is Lecra. I'm Stephanie. I'm Sharice. And we're gonna spill the tea on this bullshit on the next episode. One laugh out of two. We ain't laughing.

SPEAKER_04: 31:02

We ain't laughing.