We're Still Outside . . . But We're Home By 10!

Getting older doesn’t mean giving up the fun! We dive into what it’s like to still be “outside” in your 40s, 50s, and beyond—just with a bedtime. From day parties to early exits, we’re keeping it cute, grown, and well-rested. If you’ve ever pre-gamed with antacids, left the club before midnight, or chosen sleep over the afterparty, this one’s for you. We're talking nightlife nostalgia, grown-up fun, and why being home by 10 might just be the new flex.

Perfect for:
✨ Millennials and Gen X trying to balance fun and recovery
✨ Anyone who’s traded shots for supplements
✨ Grown folks who still love a good party—but with boundaries

Tag a friend who's "still outside" but yawning by 9! 🥂💤
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Transcript

Dancing in the Mirror Reality Check

Speaker 1 0:00

You ever dance and you think you are killing it , and you look in the mirror .

Speaker 2 0:04

Oh , that look crazy when you look in the mirror .

Speaker 1 0:05

You feel like look crazy . You know what I ?

Speaker 3 0:07

was like . I was like , oh , I thought I was out here cold . I'm in front of you looking stupid . Okay , Ellery's looking , probably looking real crazy . This is Legra . This is Stephanie . This is Cherie .

Speaker 1 0:27

And this is Evania , and this is Timeless and Unfiltered , where we are spilling the tea on midlife , one laugh at a time . What was that ? Why does she always ?

Speaker 3 0:47

have something weird , because before the cameras start rolling , we sing the song . What was that ? I think it was a remix . It's a .

Speaker 2 0:58

Stephanie . And this is Sharice Missing the vibe . It's about to be her best life right now . Oh , best life .

Speaker 3 1:04

Oh , that's right . Oh , it's hard . What was that ? Booty booty ? What did you say ? No , I was like boom , tickly boom , tickly boom . I used to love Dossifix .

Speaker 1 1:15

I used to love Dossifix .

Speaker 2 1:17

That was

Friday Night Plans vs Reality

Speaker 2 1:18

them , Okay .

Speaker 1 1:18

well , that actually kind of brings me to my conversation today because I was on Instagram the other day and I think it's Black Generation X , I think is the IG , but it's just people , our age and just a variety of different stuff . And there was this gentleman on there who did a . I was like what is that noise ? I've got my fan just going on .

Speaker 3 1:44

I'm so used to having hot flashes of the fan just on by his damn self .

Speaker 1 1:48

Hold on , let me turn that off , it's just . It's just on . It's just on because , and it's cold in here , y'all so it's not cold , I don't .

Speaker 3 1:57

I'm sorry , I'm a , I'm a hot mama , oh okay okay , okay , every sense of the word , every baby , every sense of the word , but yeah , but there was this uh gentleman on instagram and he was talking about how um he made plans for friday night and he was so crunk all week .

Speaker 1 2:14

You know , he got his going . Now he got his going out clothes ready , like oh , you know , it's hump day , it's almost friday and he said friday came and he's like , oh lord , I gotta go out tonight . You know , he's like okay , I'm going , I got to go out tonight , tona .

Speaker 2 2:25

You know , he's like OK , I'm going , I'm going , I'm going .

Speaker 1 2:27

And then he got home , he took a shower . You know that itis started kicking in . You start realizing , oh , and he never made it . I say your friends is not texting Like man where you at you coming , you got me , you got me , you got me . And it reminded me of I was supposed to go out with Stephanie .

Speaker 3 2:45

To Ellery's , you know she keep talking about .

Speaker 1 2:48

Ellery's and I was like , oh my God , okay , I'm going to go to Ellery's , I'm going to go . And it was after Du Bois' EP event and I had already had a long day . But Stephanie was ready and I was like , okay , okay , you cannot back out . Come on , now I'm hyping myself up . You should stay up all night . Yeah , you can come on . Come on , go out , party all night , get up in the morning . You're like like I was trying to hype myself up girl .

Speaker 2 3:14

She texted me and said no .

Speaker 1 3:15

Ellery tonight when I tell y'all I'm so excited one dive to the bed .

Speaker 2 3:19

She was happy I was so happy .

Speaker 3 3:21

I was like when did I get home ? Very , very , and the only reason why it wasn't in the Ellery's cause . We literally thought we're gonna get there at 9 o'clock , yeah , and then she made it to get there at 9 o'clock . We just pulled up at 9.01 and it was a line .

Speaker 3 3:34

it was a holiday weekend down the freaking block and we was like , oh my god , and it's only like so . Looking at all the people , I was like we're not going to have anywhere to sit and but for shits and giggles we said let's go in there . And see , we walked right in . I was like is there a seat ? It's reserved , it's reserved . We was like alright , and we just left back out . So we was like , no , ellery .

Speaker 2 3:55

I was so happy and we thought we was going to parking lot pimp we thought we was going to parking lot .

Speaker 3 4:00

Pimp , they don't park in like pimp it was some jellies outside in parking lots with some jelly jelly , and they just weren't saying . Then they , they talked like little , like y'all going here with y'all going , with y'all going here , and that was it , just we was like I was just so happy to have that text I was so happy and I had to tell you I was like buying .

Speaker 3 4:21

You know she's like what happened . Yeah , old people was there early . I know people get there early , you gotta get there at eight . I was like Vanya , you know she's like what happened . Yeah , Vanya was up . Old people get there early . Old people get there early , you got to get there at 8 . They are 30 .

Speaker 1 4:30

We talking about old people , that's us . Stephanie , yeah , because we was there at 9 o'clock .

Speaker 2 4:36

We should have been there at 8.30 . Because what ?

Speaker 3 4:40

They don't even go out now time we were ready to go to bed 12, .

Speaker 1 4:44

We were ready to leave and I was like , when did we get old ? When did we get ?

Speaker 3 4:50

old , I'd still be kicking .

Speaker 1 4:51

And then the other day I was in the bathroom , oh goodness , I had my Spotify playing and just a little 90s old school and stuff and I can't remember what song came on when I tell little 90s old school and stuff and I can't remember what song came on . When I tell you if I could twerk , you

When Did We Get Old?

Speaker 1 5:10

were twerking I bounced that butt all over the bathroom . But when I tell you , my knee popped and I was like , oh , you're like what's going ?

Speaker 3 5:15

on . I was so tired , god , I was so tired . Afterwards I was like when did I get old ? When did I get old ? I don't like it . I've been telling my friends lately . I was like I'm literally like scared you better be no . Like like literally every day I wait and I'm just freaking scared because it's like something new , hurting , and I'm like , oh my God , and I just fear like stuff is just going to get worse and I'm just I'm like scared , shitless , honestly at this point . Well , they say motion is lotion .

Speaker 1 5:48

I think the best thing you can do is to stay active . This is scary . Exercise all of those things , Because when . I tell you when that , when it kicks in , and when me being idle for the last two years . When I tell you my , I mean my joints . My hands hurt , my toe hurt , like my knees hurt my everything my joints and stuff are so stiff , since I wasn't able to exercise . So , and trying to get back , into exercising is really hard .

Speaker 1 6:17

And then in my mind , I'm at the level where I was before . No , you're not I lay that yoga mat on the floor and I stare at it for a long time , yep . Because I'm trying to figure out how to get down there .

Speaker 3 6:29

Just for real , I'm serious , I still have a little neuropathy in my toes .

Speaker 1 6:34

It's not bad , but it's more in my toes . It was the whole front of my foot and for neuropathy is when you can't the nerves damage .

Speaker 1 6:45

So chemo damaged the nerves in my in my hands and my feet . Now I have the feelings 100 back in my hands , but my toes are still tingly . So when I've been down your normal you know how you've been down and your toes been I still don't feel my toes . So it's really weird and it's uncomfortable . I don't know why it's uncomfortable , because you really don't feel it , but it's just . I think this is so weird .

Speaker 3 7:07

So when I have to get down on the floor . I'm like hmm , yeah , it's a different feeling .

Speaker 1 7:11

It takes me a minute because I got to think about it . Okay , put that knee down first .

Speaker 3 7:18

And then your knees be hurting when they get on the ground . I'm serious , it's like , and you don't unless you kids just stay active your whole life , oh , my God you have to stay active because I was trying to help my friend move something or roll up an air mattress , and I got on my knees and it just hurts . And I was like why my knees start hurting . It's bad . I used to be able to just pop down and pop back up .

Speaker 1 7:38

We can't Everything pop , but it ain't the kind of popping , it ain't the kind of mother it's all like oh , this is really happening man . You wake up . I don't like it . You literally wake up and it just happens overnight and you're like when did this happen ? And we think it won't happen .

Speaker 2 7:53

We think that we're just invincible and it'll pass us .

Speaker 3 7:55

We're not man .

Speaker 2 7:56

That's the old people who go through that , and then you wake up and it's like oh goodness . And I remember the last time like you know I was in the midst of , you know , having relations , I'm like you know what I think , my back started hurting or something I was like I was like hold on , okay , like okay , or are you trying to adjust your angle at the yeah During the yeah During mid-stroke ?

Speaker 1 8:21

Yeah , you're like You're trying to . Just because I'm sitting here going , is my back hurting right now Like what ? The what is going on ? Oh my Lord , when did I get old ? When did I get old Sharice ?

Speaker 2 8:32

You're not . This week we're going to get some fish oil , some glucosamine and get them getting down and up or something , but uh-uh .

Speaker 3 8:44

So I just had a homegirl's sleepover for birthdays and everybody woke up in the morning and they all went in the kitchen and had a bunch of vitamins and a bunch of and I was like I'm sitting there over the couch , I ain't doing that . They be like Stephanie , you the main one . I was like I ain't doing that . I started eating some cupcakes and stuff . I was like I'm not doing that . I was like I'm not .

Speaker 1 9:06

But how was the sleepover ? Because y'all were talking .

Speaker 3 9:08

When you left , man , we thought we was going to kick it . We went on , we was going to , we was going to drink , play games , eat man . We was all in bed at tea . Oh my God , I ain't to the games . We drink and we eat and we'll dance around and be tired of dancing and be like oh girl , I got to lay down girl .

Speaker 2 9:34

And then everybody just started falling asleep , I said we just that's exactly what we just started this thing out talking about . Oh , my God .

Speaker 1 9:41

That's hilarious .

Speaker 3 9:46

Y' talking about . Y'all just had a small sleepover . Yeah , we went to sleep . Yeah , we just all slept together and then everybody wake up at the crack of dawn . All right , take their vitamins and all they can . I said , oh , what is that's like ? When did we ?

Speaker 1 9:55

get . Oh , I don't like this for us . Well , sometime I do a little , I gotta have little things that kind of remind me like I still got it , Like first of all , I knew this was the episode , so I squozed myself up in this hoe-ass dress .

Speaker 3 10:09

Listen , listen it ain't hoe-ass . Look , I'm not squeezed in it , it's sex , sex . I'm squozed .

Speaker 1 10:14

It's sex , sex . I'm squozed . That's beyond squeezed . I'm when you I dressed and sitting a bit too tight , sitting trying to hold my stomach the whole time .

Speaker 3 10:32

But anyway , there's certain little things that I do to kind of remind yourself who you are , and it's that one song that come on .

Speaker 1 10:35

It's that one song they put you in there , like that . That makes you say I'm that girl but you know what the funny part is ? You know how you

Motion is Lotion: Staying Active

Speaker 1 10:42

ever dance and you think you are killing it and you look in the mirror .

Speaker 2 10:45

Oh , and look crazy when you look in the mirror .

Speaker 1 10:46

You're like look crazy .

Speaker 3 10:50

I'm like , oh , I thought I was out here cold . I'm in front of people looking stupid . I'll be at Ellery's chicken , probably looking real crazy , because you thought you was killing it . I still had all of my moves .

Speaker 1 11:02

Yes , oh , looking crazy , yes , but I got songs that kind of bring that out of me . Let's talk about a little old school music .

Speaker 3 11:12

Because you put that question out . Oh damn , Let me look .

Speaker 1 11:15

Hold on a second , I put a question on Facebook .

Speaker 2 11:17

I missed everything you got to pay attention , girl , you got to pay attention Attention .

Speaker 3 11:26

That was a bone crusher .

Speaker 1 11:27

Yes , I'm outside of the club .

Speaker 3 11:33

Pick up my phone . She had to dig deep . I was like Okay .

Speaker 1 11:39

So I put a post on Facebook and it just said when I find it Okay . What's the one song that , when you hear it , it makes you act a fool and forget your age ?

Speaker 3 11:52

So make sure y'all comment and let us know the one song that makes you act a fool and forget your age . When you say forget your age , first of all we old , it's because you're going to hurt .

Speaker 1 12:05

Is that what you're saying ? You're still trying to dance . You're trying to twerk .

Speaker 3 12:08

You're like , ooh Jesus , what ? The that's what you mean .

Speaker 1 12:12

Whatever it is , it makes you forget you 50 something .

Speaker 3 12:17

So you guys comment and let us know what that song is . So let me give you a couple comments .

Speaker 1 12:23

Actually , we got quite a few . We got quite a few . Let me give you a couple comments of what some of them , I think , had said the same thing . Somebody said anything ludicrous , anything ludicrous yeah , that's thug .

Speaker 3 12:35

Really , all you got to do is throw some bowls and stuff to ludicrous .

Speaker 1 12:39

Uh-huh .

Speaker 3 12:50

Okay , so that's Cash Money . Somebody said pop that coochie .

Speaker 1 12:53

Pop that , coochie Pop that coochie baby .

Speaker 2 12:57

Anything .

Speaker 1 12:58

Janet or Bobby Brown . Someone said Someone said they're ashamed to say , but it's Trick Daddy and Trina .

Speaker 3 13:05

You don't know them .

Speaker 1 13:07

Reptile like me . Now , you know , madison , love anything , trina I love Trina too , If she hear anything Trina , she just loses her mind . Blow the Whistle came up .

Speaker 2 13:18

Blow the Whistle .

Speaker 3 13:20

Blow , the Whistle came up .

Speaker 1 13:21

I don't know how many times that's a smooth song it is .

Speaker 3 13:24

I don't see your age dancing off of that , like what you doing to Blow the Whistle that's going to make you hurt . I mean , you know , but some people I've seen people like do the Chicago Two Step and that's what in my mind with that song I remember the people doing it and they be cold , but you don't know , you don't know what memory it triggers when they hear that song .

Speaker 2 13:46

Cause I'ma tell you right now Put on .

Speaker 1 13:48

Nasty Girls by Vanity Fair .

Speaker 2 13:52

Look how I came out of it .

Speaker 3 13:56

Yeah , yeah , and he's heard some . He's like who am I right now ? Who are you ?

Speaker 2 14:03

You just went all the way back . You called Vanity .

Speaker 1 14:04

Six , that was it . And somebody said nasty girl by Vanity Six . See baby . You put on Vanity Six right now .

Speaker 3 14:11

And we'd be waving , I know and we'd be waving and I'm gonna be hurt tomorrow right up in here , but you think you really killing it and you look in the mirror and be like is that ? What .

Speaker 1 14:19

I look like okay . And then , as soon as I hear that ding , ow ow , ow he loses my shit , like right now .

Speaker 3 14:37

And for y'all that don't know that If we can not make babies , maybe we can make them .

Speaker 1 14:46

As soon as I hear that .

Speaker 3 14:48

And then you just say woo , because , baby , that would make me forget my age and who I am . Because the way I be rolling , or think you rolling and be looking like stone , look a whole stone in that mirror .

Speaker 1 15:02

And that's how I was , and I can't remember what song it was . I was in the mirror dancing and I think I was trying to put five curls in my hair or something and I just had to look up and saw myself Burn your forehead Is somebody else in this mirror .

Speaker 3 15:16

I know that it's not me . It's not me anymore .

Speaker 1 15:20

I know that's not me . Or when you think you're going low and you still standing up straight .

Speaker 2 15:25

Yeah , no , no , no , no . You are stuck in the block . Drop down and get your eagle on . I tore my meniscus .

Speaker 1 15:30

You tore your meniscus and .

Speaker 3 15:32

I tore my meniscus . Yes , you have to do that in heels . Oh , it don't matter .

Speaker 2 15:36

The meniscus is torn . I don't know what . I had on . She's like I should have did nothing . Yeah , yeah , girl .

Speaker 3 15:42

Is that woman tearing her nut trying to yeah Girl .

Speaker 1 15:47

That's when I'm going to know that's going to be the end of your life .

Speaker 3 15:50

I knew when I looked in the mirror Because .

Speaker 1 15:51

I always dance , I always could dance , and you can't tell me I'm still not killing it . Until I looked in the mirror and I was like what ? You killing it in your way . And other people will probably still think you're killing it . You know , you see them , aunties , that he's recording on video At Ellery's . At Ellery's .

Speaker 3 16:19

This was going around now . That's why that line was so long , because we'd be in there joking . Yes , everybody , be out there dancing . Oh my god , it's so great . But I think it's young people in there trying to be funny , like look at all the grand , don't , don't do us , don't do us . I'm going to show y'all something they , but they be out there giving it , they be . We don't care who looking I can't we all ?

Speaker 1 16:37

I cannot look like that . I refuse man the vanity in me will not allow it .

Speaker 3 16:42

I'm going to be a liar .

Speaker 1 16:45

It will not allow it . I cannot look like that . No , everybody don't look bad don't look bad everybody

Songs That Make Us Forget Our Age

Speaker 1 16:52

having a good time when I saw I'm sure they having a good time . I'm not taking away from the good time , but if you think you still in there cutting up and you know what ?

Speaker 3 16:59

I went to another place called 1942 and some song came on and this older man was like hold on , he stood up and he just started doing this .

Speaker 1 17:08

Like a robot . No , I didn't even know he was popping . I didn't he thought he was popping . He thought he was popping . I didn't think he thought he was , but he was like and what Nothing moving .

Speaker 3 17:16

I'm like Lord Jesus . I started filming . I said , baby , you can't tell me that man don't think In his mind he was , he thought he was , he was killing it , he was crazy and he was just . Oh , I was like I'm so proud of you , stephanie . He didn't care .

Speaker 2 17:34

Stop , I can't take it .

Speaker 1 17:36

I love it Because I'd have seen it , oh yeah , and in my mind I can still pop locks Right and that was cool .

Speaker 3 17:42

But my knees is popping .

Speaker 2 17:43

It's okay .

Speaker 3 17:45

Don't give up the dream , do you I ?

Speaker 2 17:48

mean , but as long as the real key honestly is having fun At , the real key honestly is having fun .

Speaker 3 17:54

At the end of the day , and that's what everybody else can do . You know what I ?

Speaker 2 17:56

mean , I mean I wish they really wouldn't take so much and make fun of them . I know . But it's still nice to be in environments where you can let your hair down and just really dance and have fun . Because we did that .

Speaker 1 18:09

But it's time to start two-stepping y'all . It's time to start two-stepping . That ain't enough for me . Just like that brother trying to pop lock . I have seen it many times . I was like what is he doing ?

Speaker 3 18:22

In your mind you are killing it , but you don't realize you ain't moved yet .

Speaker 2 18:27

But he's doing like he said during the beginning .

Speaker 1 18:30

He's moving . No , but he ain't moving , he's moving .

Speaker 3 18:33

No , but he ain't moving .

Speaker 2 18:35

He's thinking moving I was like oh , I think you're supposed to move , and then they're going to hit all that .

Speaker 3 18:40

Yeah , but he was just stuck in the block , he couldn't get out . I was like , oh , bless his heart . You been going good . I'm going to pump you up , sir , because I'm going to pump me up even if I look crazy , because I don't want someone to pump me up . Even if I look crazy , I look crazy .

Speaker 1 18:54

I saw myself and I said , oh Lord , please don't let it be , it's official . No , it's okay , I'm going to get it back , though I'm getting it back , I got to when they say motion is lotion .

Speaker 3 19:02

Yes , I'm going to keep working out y'all .

Speaker 1 19:04

I got to get back .

Speaker 3 19:09

I got to keep it , you so young boy it's coming , shoot it's coming .

Speaker 1 19:14

But that's sexual too , though .

Speaker 3 19:17

What motion and lotion . Well , they think in their mind oh they killing it .

Speaker 2 19:23

Come on , what you about to say that you killing it , and they got some mood in .

Speaker 3 19:26

Yeah , I'm tearing her up .

Speaker 1 19:27

Uh-huh , did you move yet , hey sir , when , when you gonna start moving ? You don't feel that , you don't feel that . Uh , yup , yup . She said I don't know , just like , um , yeah , I think , I think . I think yeah and it ain't no worse than us .

Speaker 3 19:45

I know you get two pumps on top . Oh , that shit on top man the knee .

Speaker 1 19:50

That's where all my wait my leg don't open that wide , no more . What ? No , I let's roll up .

Speaker 3 19:53

Wait , my leg don't open that wide I didn't ask some of those because they done got wide , they done got wide . My leg , don't open that wide , I can't , I can't .

Speaker 1 20:02

I'm sorry , I can't straddle yeah .

Speaker 3 20:05

Just old love , baby Old love , what you say , just roll over , just roll over .

Speaker 2 20:09

Just roll over , just roll over , oh , just roll your phone , dude , just roll .

Speaker 1 20:13

Oh bar , oh lord , but that's what I'm saying , you think you still got it and with me being out of commission really the last two years , and then now with with chemo and my joints and trying to get I'm almost getting that sex right now , cause in my mind I'm , I'm getting it .

Speaker 3 20:33

I'm still that bitch . She's getting it in my mind , I'm getting it .

Speaker 1 20:35

I'm still that bitch , you still are and if he come from behind I might fall asleep . Hold on , oh , you're back there what's happening ? Back there , I'm sleeping flipping through the magazine .

Speaker 3 20:49

I'm telling you .

Speaker 1 20:54

I do . I think this is stuff I think about sometimes at night , like do I still got it ?

Speaker 3 20:58

you do .

Speaker 1 21:00

I'm sitting here looking at something on the floor trying to decide if I'm going to pick it up . Do I still got it ? I don't know if I can sit down to pick that up . You're not going to tell me I'm not that bitch anymore .

Speaker 2 21:14

I just think that you still have fear . You still have fear because when your feet were , you know you really couldn't feel so . You had to take care and tipping and moving over . But you do . It's like riding a bike . You got to get the right person . Yeah , and you'll be okay , it's all going to be , the mind's going to go there and it's going to be right .

Speaker 1 21:34

Tell me no , you working out , and I don't care what y'all say , I still like R Kelly's music . I've been playing him all morning , you know .

Speaker 2 21:41

I don't like his actions .

Speaker 1 21:44

Yeah , but he has some jazz , but as an artist I like his music .

Speaker 3 21:47

I've been playing him all morning Because I heard an old song . So Just keep doing what you're exercising .

Speaker 2 21:51

You're doing all of the things you got to let the right person roll up in . Y'all you got it .

Speaker 3 21:58

You're going to be that sexy siren and you're going to be like girl , I didn't know I was getting any , because I'm squozing this dress .

Speaker 1 22:04

You're squozing that dress that I was talking about you got it yeah .

Speaker 3 22:11

That lady ready I ?

Speaker 1 22:15

don't think I got the moves . No more .

Speaker 3 22:17

You don't , I don't know I'm trying to be that still , you are never doubt that .

Speaker 2 22:21

Okay , I'm gonna put on erotic city or something , because that that just breaks even if , even if I don't got it , I think I do , I think I do that and I'm telling you that , and then the leg rod is not going to get into any situation and not come out of it on top .

Speaker 3 22:39

That's just who you are , so you got it .

Speaker 2 22:43

How about that ? Absolutely yeah , I'm very competitive , Right ? So here you go .

Speaker 3 22:50

You ain't about to outdo me , sir . Even in the band I'm competitive . I know that's terrible to say , but I am . You ain't about to outdo me , sir . Even in the bed you hold on .

Speaker 1 22:54

I'm competitive . I'm competitive . I know that's terrible to say , but I am .

Speaker 3 22:58

I'm competitive in the bed I'm like oh you , oh , you're showing out , you're showing out . Oh , that's what we're doing Okay .

Speaker 2 23:08

I don't care if I throw this hip out right now .

Speaker 3 23:10

Hold on , you got it . You're not going to break me down like that .

Speaker 1 23:13

What you look like when you come up . I don't know if it's something different . I'm going to have to ice for two days .

Speaker 2 23:18

You got it .

Speaker 1 23:20

I'm going to have to ice for two days . Girl Lord , have mercy . What's your song , Cherise ? What's your song that brings ?

Speaker 2 23:27

that Atomic Dog . Really , you're just stomping it out . It's just music . No , it's just music . Now , it's not just the stomping , because everybody's used to it from the fraternities , but it's just something about the song that just reminds me of a certain time in my life and I just love the music .

Speaker 1 23:45

What was you doing at that time ? I probably got pregnant .

Speaker 3 23:48

I don't know , you know I think that song is sexy because I love watching men step , but I love , but I love grown ones . As soon as I hear Tom McDowell , we like in a big setting where I know it's grown people and I'm like , please somebody be here and I love when they start to Let there be a cue , let there be a cue around . That's sexy as hell to me .

Speaker 2 24:06

And even when the cap of me Come on . Oh no , this it's so sexy to me .

Speaker 1 24:10

Any black man stepping that cap of stroll makes me say girl , stop looking at that young boy like that . That's somebody's child .

Speaker 3 24:17

No , if they grown man , they're doing it wrong , I know , but that's somebody's baby he look like he a baby , but the way they do that stroll that shit's so sexy , that's sexy as hell .

Speaker 1 24:28

And I don't remember them being sexy like that in college .

Speaker 3 24:30

Now the cues always were I just liked the energy and everything .

Speaker 1 24:33

Because it was something about them just being huh huh , huh , and it reminded me of Kyle Blackness . I love that , I love it , but maybe because we didn't have a lot of Kappas on the yard you know , as they say , back then On the yard we had a lot of alphas and whatever and uh whatever , but it's something now I have .

Speaker 1 24:53

Okay , hopefully eric brent does not watch this right now , please don't watch my clients but I love to watch when uh , because even grown men , because he's a , he's an omega and um , he does a lot of different events and all that kind of stuff , and I remember I did a a trip for him and and some of his friends and I guess I hadn't seen .

Speaker 3 25:15

Was that the trip where the people were trying to kill me ?

Speaker 1 25:17

Yeah , but you weren't on this one . Oh , okay . But you weren't on this one I hadn't been around like grown fraternity men in a long time .

Speaker 3 25:27

That's what I love , but I just hadn't seen it .

Speaker 1 25:29

And then I remember going oh , y'all still do that I mean , I knew that young kids did it I knew that young kids did but yeah , but I love to watch them and when they do that little , that little neck roll , I'll be like , okay , stop looking at folks like this it don't matter if he a big boy , little boy , it's just cold . Oh , I , I love it . I was like oh , so yeah , that atomic dog , I try to that bring a mind .

Speaker 3 25:51

I try to look away that bring them out I don't look where I look , because I'm talking about the grown men .

Speaker 1 25:59

Yeah , I'm talking about the grown men too . I'll be like uh-uh , that's my . I'm like dude where were y'all at ? Stop looking at folks like that , because I love when that song it's just , it's just exciting , it's just fun .

Speaker 2 26:09

Yeah , what's the ?

Speaker 1 26:11

nasty girl song though that brings out that in a hoe in Charisse . What's the song ? What's the song ?

Old School Music and Intimacy

Speaker 1 26:20

Because we all got one . That song you hear in me going , I can't think of it . I was like what's that song , charisse ?

Speaker 3 26:30

I'm sure I have songs , I don't know , we both said mmm , we did at the same time they did yeah , that's why we said the same thing .

Speaker 2 26:44

So so I do like . One of my favorites is Till the Cops , oh yeah , okay .

Speaker 3 26:49

So that's what I'm saying , like when you're trying to get in the mood back in the day you know we used to put on music .

Speaker 1 26:55

Oh yeah , put on the boom box , put the tape in . Had a little tape Like what little sixes got you ready for your company ?

Speaker 2 27:01

Prince of Dora . I love that song . That song just will mentally take me there . I think that's so beautiful .

Speaker 1 27:07

I got a couple well , old , old , old , old school . This is 70s or whatever . Even though I was a child , I think it was just hearing these songs because my mother didn't play them . Al Green , um , living for the love , oh yeah , in between , oh yeah , yeah , I remember that more was

Speaker 3 27:28

at the Isley's . No , that was between the sheets is Isley's .

Speaker 1 27:30

Yeah , yeah and then I love Zoom . Oh yeah , I love , zoom , mm-hmm , yeah , and then there was one more , oh , ltd .

Speaker 3 27:42

Mm-hmm . Oh yes , now , that's still great sex music , that's yeah .

Speaker 2 27:48

That's sex music . That's like my wedding reception .

Speaker 3 27:50

It's on my playlist from- . Okay , yeah , wedding that I plan that's sex music .

Speaker 2 27:54

I'm like what is this future ?

Speaker 1 27:56

I'm manifesting , go manifest it . We're going to be my wedding . We're going to just I don't want to be a bridesmaid though Me either . I will come to the wedding . Well , really no . No , what I always said I don't want to be at nobody's wedding .

Speaker 2 28:08

No , I'm not doing that .

Speaker 3 28:12

Okay , because . I have way too , I'm in a relationship and I'm like I'm having a party and whoever's going to show up , that's who's meant to be there and that's who's at the wedding .

Speaker 1 28:21

Oh nice , yeah , just tell me where to bring the gift . I'm going to have a little tag on Don't have me in these dresses and stuff , yeah because I haven't had way too many . My party be good , I don't know . I just think if you get to a certain age , it's like , yeah , I've been there , done that . Yeah , let's just applaud you .

Speaker 3 28:39

We come and we dance , we're going to eat , drink , dance and celebrate we got married and just yeah , that's what we do .

Speaker 1 28:50

Now I would love to do , I do want to say , if I ever get married again , I do want to do the dress shopping , do you ? I do ? I want to say yes to the dress moment .

Speaker 3 29:00

But you're not going to actually wear it . No , I'm going to wear the dress , but I'm not having bridesmaids .

Speaker 1 29:05

I'm not doing none of that , and I'm not wearing a dress .

Speaker 3 29:07

I always want a jumpsuit . Oh no , I just want to go .

Speaker 1 29:10

I mean , even if it's a jumpsuit . You know I want to .

Speaker 2 29:18

You are not going to do all that . I don't even know why you just did . I know my wedding song .

Speaker 3 29:22

I'll be like , yep , that's it right , there , I got my wedding song you want to try it on ?

Speaker 1 29:25

No , that's the one , Because you know I hate trying on clothes .

Speaker 3 29:28

She just want to look at it . I'll come back here . I can get fitted later .

Speaker 1 29:39

Yeah , work that and we'll try it later . But I do want the experience of shopping for a dress , but I don't want to do the whole bride space thing , so my wedding song when I'm walking down the aisle . Okay , what's the song ?

Speaker 3 29:45

At last with my cane . My love's coming along . Girl , you heard Baby last . So much Cause I don't know when it's gonna happen for me . Shit , my love Baby .

Speaker 1 30:02

We might have to push you down . Gonna , push that lady down . Gonna , push you down now . Oh , stephanie , it's okay .

Speaker 3 30:11

It's gonna happen .

Speaker 1 30:12

You keep manifesting girl . I'm gonna manifest it in an audience . I'm just sitting in the audience , y'all ain't got a whole song . I'm going to manifest it in an audience . I'm just sitting in the audience , you ain't got a whole song . She like I mean she had her sensual song .

Speaker 3 30:26

Oh , you did .

Speaker 2 30:26

You did yeah , because that's her whole song .

Speaker 1 30:29

Yeah , that song is just . That's just bring it out of me .

Speaker 3 30:33

I'll tell you You're a sensual lover .

Speaker 1 30:35

You know , you ain't got that one that just triggers something . Tell you , you're a sensual lover . I , you know , ain't got that one that just triggers something in you . Make you forget how old you were , make you think you still ? Got good knees .

Speaker 3 30:44

Till the cops come knocking at Remix Chef's kiss Gosh , Ooh okay .

Speaker 2 30:50

I mean I might you know I don't do good with on the spot stuff you got to process things . You got to think I got a process thing , I got a thing .

Speaker 1 30:57

I got such a long list because I love music . I love old school music . I love old school music . I got a bomb old school playlist .

Speaker 3 31:04

I love all my old school , you know .

Speaker 1 31:05

I'm a Confunction LTD Lakeside .

Speaker 2 31:09

Which is so funny they coming in concert again . I know , oh they are .

Speaker 1 31:18

Because I was just going to say I haven't heard of their concert this year . I think Stockbridge it might be they're doing something . Do you remember when we went to the Lakeside concert and for a minute the lead singer of Lakeside was replaced with the young dude and he dressed as a pirate ? Yes , I was like what is going on ? I know , but everybody's like hey pirate , hey pirate . That ain't the old man that's supposed to be .

Speaker 2 31:38

That ain't the old man that would leave Lakeside .

Speaker 1 31:41

I think everybody want that . Fire honey , we was all coming .

Speaker 2 31:43

Oh , oh oh , oh y'all was gonna be walking around Another patch on right , we saw those honey .

Speaker 1 31:52

Ahoy there , ahoy , ahoy there . I was like . Yes , we love our old school concerts and our old school music , but yeah , those are songs that kind of trigger make me think I still got it . I still got it . I almost feel like the Tin man and the Wiz Aw To my slice of oil .

Speaker 3 32:13

You're just loyal to me . What'd you say ?

Speaker 1 32:15

My stuff ain't cracking Motion is lotion honey .

Speaker 2 32:18

I got to get moving .

Speaker 1 32:19

I got to get moving .

Speaker 2 32:20

But you've been doing all of the things though . I really are doing all of the things I'm impatient .

Speaker 1 32:24

You know I'm all right now you want to nap . I want to start working out and I'm slim and fit tomorrow . You know I want to start working out . My knees feel good and you know like this is taking too long and you know you're younger , you you healed so much faster and all that kind of stuff too , and it's like but this is part of the realization like I am god no , live y'all life , but you know what you keep saying .

Speaker 2 32:46

Okay , okay , but no , listen to me . You keep saying that , right , but you're still younger . I'm really sitting here looking at us and she squalls in this dress . Okay , you can squeeze in it , but you in it and you look good in it . And I remember seeing women our age .

Speaker 1 33:06

We see them every day .

Speaker 2 33:08

Well , I don't want to talk about nobody right now . So I remember being younger , seeing people our age , and I'm not trying to be smart , but their boobs sat all the way down here . The bras was crazy . Still probably is the weight from just over the . That's why I said you're working out , but you know , over the years of just not doing anything like the age of the same 50 , I think the 50s we saw .

Speaker 1 33:34

Okay , we have push-up bras now my titties still hang low .

Speaker 2 33:38

But even today , where we are , today , people , there are still people our age . We look damn great yeah .

Speaker 3 33:47

I agree , I think we do so .

Speaker 2 33:48

I'm just saying I didn't say I wasn't fine .

Speaker 3 33:52

I didn't say and I didn't say , you didn't say that but what ?

Speaker 2 33:56

I'm just saying is , I think , the terminology for me you're not old , you're not old , you are fine . You just went through a stage where you actually had cancer and you had to do things and have things in your body that you didn't care for , and they did some things different before that happened ,

Growing Older with Grace and Humor

Speaker 2 34:23

to be honest you don't look like somebody you do not look like somebody who went through two years , or whatever , of chemotherapy .

Speaker 2 34:31

You look great . You didn't lose weight . Your , your skin is still amazing . You know what I mean you know what I mean so everything about Legra is still great . You know what I mean and as your friend friends , I am telling you you look amazing , so don't you might as well . Where's nasty girls ?

Speaker 1 34:55

put nasty girls on for me right now . But you're not . But look , I just don't . Y'all might have been where's Nasty Girls ?

Speaker 2 34:58

Put Nasty Girls on for me right now , you know , but you're not . We're not getting older , you're not . But look , we're still alive .

Speaker 1 35:02

I just don't Y'all know that . You know , Sharice ain't going to never get older .

Speaker 2 35:04

I don't accept . No , I don't accept the terminology , I don't accept things , that people I'm not running away from that because people say you ought to be glad you're here for another day .

Speaker 3 35:16

It's a privilege , yeah .

Speaker 2 35:17

I'm glad and all of that stuff .

Speaker 3 35:19

Yeah .

Speaker 2 35:20

We're good with where we are right , but for me we're better than most . When I say better than most , I mean we're doing a lot , we're active . We actually travel from May . We won't stop till October . I went to Peru no-transcript , far away , all sides for the rest of your life .

Speaker 3 36:03

Manifest me girl .

Speaker 2 36:05

You just got to get it in your brain that you're good and you're there . But you know you're not . You're not old , You're not old . We're going to progress in age . That's just going to happen and we're going to appreciate it . But we're going to do everything we can do to keep our health , wealth , vitality and everything and just be good until we can't anymore . And we still can . So I don't accept any of those things until I really can and that's a long time .

Speaker 3 36:33

Yeah , that's all it's way down the road .

Speaker 1 36:35

Well , ok let's say a prayer with our vaginas right now too .

Speaker 3 36:41

Don't let her get old , be hunching and I want to .

Speaker 2 36:47

Amen .

Speaker 3 36:48

And you know what I've recently learned . I had just recently found out that the desire for sex and intimacy never goes away . It don't , I thought , and it came from a my 80 .

Speaker 3 36:59

My aunt at the time was like 80 85 and she was like contrary to what people believe , she's like I still want to have relations . And I said what did she call it ? Relations , yeah , relations , okay . And she said the desire never goes away , and I don't know for whatever reason . I just thought when people age , they just didn't think about her or want it and she was like no , it don't go nowhere . She said it don't go nowhere . She said no . She said I might need some cream to help me out down there . She said but I still want to hunch . And I said oh , so it just does not go anywhere . I'm trying to hunch over .

Speaker 2 37:31

She and her 90s still want to the general public think , like when they think about us and our age group , they literally think you know younger people actually . That's why they be like that grandma , she need to go sit down . I'm arguing .

Speaker 3 37:44

Because in their minds they think you're too old , Because I thought that when I was , I always thought that too . And it was .

Speaker 1 37:48

I was like I wonder if , when I'm about 88 , 95 and nasty girls come on , oh , you going to dance when I'm about 88 , 95 years old , if I'm gonna get up Grandma's on Instagram , me getting the day be on .

Speaker 3 38:09

That came moving in .

Speaker 1 38:14

Still gonna get it . I'm gonna go and my teeth gonna fall out and everything , don't wonder if you go back gonna hate . She missed this episode , y'all she is we love you girl , I know she'll what'd you ? Say what'd you say , she would probably wherever I'm somewhere , huh , say she hunting yeah , we hate I'm hating right now , I'm low , I'm low . Congratulating right now , kitty girl I'm hating , but get something for me . This is .

Speaker 2 38:40

Lurie , y'all the Timeless and Unfiltered . This is Stephanie , this is Sharice and we are missing Evania .

Speaker 1 38:45

But we still spilling that tea on Midlife .

Speaker 2 38:48

One laugh at a time .

Speaker 1 38:50

See y'all next week . Y'all Thanks for watching , guys .