Self-Care For Busy Women

Let's talk about self-care and personal development, queens! 👑 As busy women juggling multiple responsibilities, we often forget about our own wellness tips and self-awareness. Whether you're looking to level up your hygiene routine or just need some self-help guidance, this episode is your safe space to explore what self-care means to you. Share your journey with us! 💕

Transcript

What Is Self-Care for Busy Women?

Speaker 1 0:00

I want to talk about self-care . As busy as we are , different directions , we're running in and traveling and I just kind of want to talk to you , ladies , about what you do for self-care . I need help . We do so much and we do so much for everybody you know , and we just sit back and be like damn I'm tired . And then when you have children , think about how often you have to show up for your kids .

Speaker 3 0:27

I mean regardless of their age , because who said to stop at 18 ? That was the biggest lie they ever told it don't .

Speaker 2 0:37

This is Legra .

Speaker 5 0:39

This is Stephanie .

Speaker 2 0:41

This is Cherie and this is Evanya . Stephanie , this is Cherie and this is Ivanya .

Speaker 3 0:49

And this is Timeless and Unfiltered , where we are spilling the tea on midlife , one laugh at a time . We are back for another episode of Timeless and Unfiltered and y'all make sure y'all follow us on all social media platforms at timeless and unfiltered , go to our website at timeless and unfilteredcom and subscribe on youtube if y'all want to take a look and catch us doing our thing on video but anyway , this is legra this is stephanie , this is sharice evania .

Speaker 3 1:22

And again , this is timeless and unfiltered where we are here to spill the tea on midlife . One laugh at a time , one laugh at a time .

Speaker 1 1:29

What's going on ? Nothing and everything .

Speaker 3 1:33

There you go .

Speaker 1 1:34

We just busy .

Speaker 3 1:35

Yeah , always , always , always busy . What's going on with y'all ? That's it .

Speaker 1 1:40

No , I think for me guys , I want to talk about self-care , because as busy as we are and the different directions we're running in and traveling and work and scooters and whatever else we have going on , I just kind of want to talk to you ladies about what you do for self-care . I need help , I mean , but like okay , but for real y'all we can , and I think it's for women period . We do so much , and we do so much for everybody .

Speaker 1 2:25

You know , and we just sit back and be like damn I'm tired . And then , when you have children , think about how , how often you really have to show up for your kids .

Speaker 2 2:35

I mean regardless of their age , because who said to stop at 18 ?

Speaker 1 2:38

that was the biggest lie they ever told right , it don't um the biggest lie , and so like we're caught , don't Right and don't the biggest lie , and so like we're constantly , don't stop . So I think we constantly move and , to be honest , being where we are in our moment of middle age and trying to figure it out and still having to carry for lack of a better term some of the burdens or try to release it , whichever one that is , at the same time can be a bit taxing . I think it just comes into trying to build some boundaries to protect yourself , but still trying to be loving and intentional to the people that you love . And so it's like how do we ? How do I self-care myself ? Like I think I'm doing okay , right , but what does that really look like ? What does it really mean

Young Women's Approach to Self-Care

Speaker 1 3:36

? Like what are you guys ?

Speaker 5 3:37

doing . We're special creatures .

Speaker 4 3:40

I want to say that as far as being women because of everything we go through .

Speaker 5 3:45

We go through periods , we go through childbirth , we go through menopause . We're just like natural nurturers and so we just want to take care of everything and everybody . I think it's just innate , it's just who we are , and so it is important for us to figure out well , how do I take care of myself , and at what point do you begin taking care of yourself ? I've noticed one thing about the younger generation , the younger women they don't play . I see them on social media . They do a lot of self-care . And I'm like man I never . I didn't even think about it back then . I guess because I was raising children . I never thought well , when the kids go down , do something for yourself . I just was doing something else to prepare for the next day so .

Speaker 5 4:31

I think for me . I'm just now coming into the self care the older I've gotten it now that my kids are gone and even though they're gone , they're not gone right . But now I have the boundaries where they're like monkey , I know and I can't , and now I'm starting to do more for myself , whereas I wasn't . But I applaud the younger women that started early .

Speaker 5 4:53

What kind of things are you doing Getting my lashes done . I don't know what my lashes my real lashes look like anymore . I've had them for years . I got a Bomb Girl Shout out to teacher Christy Beauty , but that's the one thing . If I don't do my nails , which y'all see , I'll throw on some press-ons real quick because I find out that they're becoming too much to spend money on and I'm like this is just ridiculous .

Speaker 2 5:21

They're expensive now . They used to be $20 to go get a pool set .

Speaker 5 5:24

Now it's $65 . And I'm like yeah , press on , press me on . And I would say the one thing that I do do faithfully is my lashes , and I do my own hair and stuff .

Speaker 3 5:38

Because you will color your hair in a minute .

Speaker 5 5:40

Color , cut , curl something , and I do that for myself . I have the money to go do it , but I'm like use that money on something else and then I'll spend um more money on myself if I see a purse I want or shoes , because back in the day I couldn't with all them kids . Now I'm like I just do whatever I want to do and buy what I want to buy , and so now I'm finally taking care of myself . That's just my form of self-care just indulging on myself for once and not caring and telling kids yeah , I ain't got it , but I'm about to go buy this bag I don't have it for you , but I'm about to go buy this bag for me because I feel like I've sacrificed a

Speaker 4 6:18

lot now shit we do we do what about ?

Speaker 2 6:24

you .

Speaker 3 6:24

Ivania .

Individual Self-Care Practices

Speaker 2 6:25

So I suffer from anxiety . So I feel like self-care for me is kind of pausing and taking a moment when I realize those moments are coming . So now it's just more of just breathing . So I do have certain apps or music that I listen to that calm me down . I started getting facials every month . So shout out to Tiffany . I started getting my hair done twice a month . All right , all right . Shout out to Dominique All right , all right . Things that I couldn't do , I'll say , even three , four years ago .

Speaker 5 6:53

So now I'm starting to do these things for me .

Speaker 2 6:55

Not my hands , but my feet done it's okay , all the time I keep those done . Sometimes it's just sitting in bed and not doing anything . I think sometimes self-care is just not doing anything Because we're always doing something , we're always looking for . I have to do this , Even in my head . I have to do this .

Speaker 4 7:11

Sometimes it's just doing nothing , which is rare .

Speaker 2 7:13

But to do nothing sometimes is the best thing you can do for self-care . And I think I want to do that more often . It is Sometimes it's just talking to a friend . It's okay , like you know , just chilling and hey girl , what you doing , how you doing . So it's a lot of things , but you know . I'm getting better at doing more for me , because you know you do have this list of things you have to take care of everything of . But now putting myself at the top of that list has been my self-care .

Speaker 5 7:36

That's fun . I actually find joy just laying in my bed and not doing nothing all day , Because I don't get to do that that often and I just feel so lazy . But I feel so proud and so good that I'm just lazy and I just get to actually watch something on TV .

Speaker 1 7:54

God , it's so hard for me to do it here , like at home or in the United States . It's so hard for me because there's just it's still for lack of a better term the noise still comes in for me . You know what I mean when people know you're here , you're home , you're whatever , it's still ringing . And so , now that I'm thinking about it , yeah , but self-care is when I'm gone , because when you're gone out of the country , when you think about it people know you're not home or you're gone , so they leave you alone .

Speaker 4 8:26

That's true , yeah , like everybody leaves you alone when you're gone .

Speaker 1 8:28

Yeah , I think that's why I travel so much .

Speaker 3 8:30

You think that's why you travel so much yeah .

Speaker 1 8:32

Now that I've done it , I might have just had a breakthrough .

Speaker 5 8:34

Yeah , right now . Yeah , and that makes sense . And when you said that that's the most enjoyable time time for me , when I'm away and people may not be able to reach me on my phone , like I go on a cruise , I don't have my phone out at all . I can't even say the whole time and no one can call me , no one can bother me and I could just . That is really self care to get away to wake up .

Speaker 1 8:58

You don't have to worry about the time . What's happening and aware is the same thing is still really going on here but you're just gone , you're in charge .

Speaker 2 9:10

You just take it out of your brain .

Speaker 1 9:12

So , yeah . I already know when I retire . I'm living in Costa Rica for two months and Mexico for two months .

Speaker 5 9:19

Stay away from everybody .

Speaker 1 9:21

And I'm going somewhere else for two months and I'm just about to just be a nomad because we're going to miss you we're going to miss you .

Speaker 5 9:32

Where are you at , girl ? We're coming down . We're going to miss you .

Speaker 3 9:36

We just talked about going to Mexico City together . No , we're going to do this together . You're going to do what I do want to go to Mexico City .

Speaker 1 9:43

We're going to mexico city together but it's , it's amazing , I really do like it , but yeah , I , yeah , I realize that my self-care is away , getting away from it my self-care ?

Speaker 3 9:56

I don't think I really do self-care just to be honest um , but I need to . It's . It's little things and I think just because when you have a health scare , all of a sudden everything your world becomes that . So you know , I get the hydration IVs , that's good .

Speaker 3 10:14

Which I actually really love and , as a matter of fact , after this surgery , this upcoming surgery , I'll get back on my schedule . But I bought a membership to get hydration IVs and the great thing about it is they have so many different kinds . Like I always do it before I travel , they have an immunity IV to boost up your immune system , and vitamin C and all that stuff . You know I'm trying to grow my hair back and all that stuff . They have one that's for skin nails , biotin , you know , and the great thing about it is , with the , the IVs one is I don't drink enough water . Let's start with that .

Speaker 3 10:53

I don't , just I don't drink enough water . It's equivalent of drinking like two and a half gallons of water . Love it because it's injected directly into your vein , so like when you drink regular water . That's why you got to pee every five minutes . A lot of it has not been absorbed into your system . Versus when it's injected into your bloodstream , you're getting 100% of whatever you're putting in your bloodstream V12 , they have the .

Speaker 3 11:23

Myers cocktail , which is the most common one , has all your vitamins , minerals and all that stuff that your body is supposed to have . So I've been really lucky because after chemo and where chemo tears you down , I started going getting IVs . I was getting IVs every week .

Speaker 3 11:41

Remember , I was going every single week and built my body back up like replenish all my vitamins and minerals and all that stuff , but it makes me feel amazing , especially after um . You know you get some energy and b12 and right all of that stuff . You know your vitamin d is low . That's another thing , ladies , that yeah , as africanAmericans , our vitamin D is naturally

Travel as Ultimate Self-Care

Speaker 3 12:06

lower , for whatever reason . I'm sorry .

Speaker 5 12:08

We're not out in the sun . I don't have enough scientific , even though we're sun people .

Speaker 3 12:12

We don't have enough scientific background .

Speaker 5 12:13

We're inside more .

Speaker 3 12:15

Yeah , we're not in the sun as much , yeah , so I get vitamin D shots .

Speaker 1 12:18

That's great , and you're stretching right yeah .

Speaker 2 12:26

Oh yeah , stretching right .

Speaker 3 12:26

Yeah , oh yeah , um , I started stretch zone , um they had which I never knew , that even existed because all the aches , the pains , your joints and let's just be honest that that leg don't go up all the way up ?

Speaker 2 12:33

no more . Hell . The knee don't even be right , no more you know all of that .

Speaker 3 12:37

So there's a place um . They have different places that will just do nothing but stretch your body for you . So they go in and kind of test and see how far you can go and all that good stuff .

Speaker 2 12:50

So you're going to split some , right ?

Speaker 3 12:52

No , I couldn't do a split then .

Speaker 1 12:55

We're going to split .

Speaker 3 12:56

I was that little girl that could never do splits .

Speaker 1 13:01

Shatice and I are working on doing a split . What y'all doing to work on ?

Speaker 3 13:05

it .

Speaker 1 13:07

You just have to stretch every day , like you would be surprised how low you'll start getting when you start doing it . But you really have to stretch the muscles .

Speaker 3 13:14

Well , right now I can't even bend down to get to the floor .

Speaker 1 13:17

Well , your stretch class is going to get you there , but I am determined that I am going to do a split with baby girl .

Speaker 3 13:23

I love it . I want to do a split and I want to twerk . Oh , so you want to ?

Speaker 5 13:29

do a split . We need a twerk class . I do .

Speaker 3 13:32

I do want to twerk . Don't laugh at your mama . I want to twerk . I mean I don't want to . Don't get me wrong , I'm not going to be one of them .

Speaker 5 13:39

Old ass . Andrea Kelly does that . Yeah , she do . She could do a split end .

Speaker 3 13:45

She's also a trained professional dancer .

Speaker 5 13:48

She's been doing this all her life .

Speaker 3 13:51

But my body as the athlete girl stuff didn't wiggle like that .

Speaker 4 13:56

My butt was always so firm .

Speaker 3 13:58

I was like why it don't wiggle ? Like that and don't be wrong , it's not about you having a big butt or whatever , because I've seen the smallest and littlest skinny girl but for whatever reason , my butt don't move like that and I just want to do it so I can have it in my sexual prowess repertoire from the last episode .

Speaker 5 14:20

For that little man Right .

Speaker 3 14:22

He's a little man , he's going to blow his mind . I episode that little man he's going to blow his mind . He's going to blow his mind . I want to learn how to twerk my butt . Don't twerk . For some reason it can . I want it , so look so for self-care . Well , I used to belly dance .

Speaker 5 14:35

Yeah , and it was cold . That's what I was going to bring up .

Speaker 3 14:38

I used to belly dance .

Speaker 2 14:40

I still know how to do all the moves and all that kind of stuff .

Speaker 3 14:43

But I love that and I keep saying I'm going to find me another class and stuff .

Speaker 1 14:48

But what I ?

Speaker 3 14:48

loved about . It was the largest the instructor that I had at the time . She made you you had if you were wearing a t-shirt , you had to tie a knot in the front , you had to have your stomach out .

Speaker 4 15:01

She didn't care if you had the biggest stomach in the world , but I'm going to tell you it's women and we're women in there .

Speaker 3 15:06

I guarantee you pushing 300 pounds and they was in there , but they looked beautiful .

Speaker 5 15:13

There's something about it .

Speaker 3 15:14

It makes you feel sexy yeah and the way , even their stomach , the way that it rolled , even though they had large stomachs , the way that they could control it and roll their stomachs .

Speaker 3 15:25

But you can sit back and watch and you can see that woman just transform . Like you come in and you , you know you're all in your clothes and now you know , like you didn't did the warm-up exercises and then once , especially the women that had you know a little bit of background in or have taken several classes , you can see how the sexiness just came out of them , that they felt sexy . They felt sexy , it looked sexy , it didn't matter what size you were and honestly , in their culture , that culture , the bigger women are the sexy women , so they it was beautiful , I loved it .

Speaker 3 15:59

I loved how it made you feel and I loved you could see it in the other women how it made them feel . Love that . So I would love to be able to take start belly dancing again .

Speaker 1 16:09

Find a class . You know I'm gonna follow you

Physical Wellness and Body Movement

Speaker 1 16:12

Cause she is so good at it . No , not anymore . No , you were and I was like oh , gosh , I want to do it now you would

Speaker 3 16:20

show us like it's very , it's very easy . Well , no , let me repeat it , it's not easy , it's not just isolating and controlling yeah , I think it's a mind thing . Yeah , but now I feel like I'm so stiff and my joints ache and my knees it , will it really ? Will so that , but there's a lot of things I'm going to do . You know this is this should be my last surgery .

Speaker 2 16:45

Well , this will be my last surgery and there's a lot of things that I want to do , but I was a gym rat .

Speaker 3 16:50

I love the gym and you know , part of my therapy , part of my self-care , will be also therapy , because I've developed some anxiety that I never had before . So I need to figure out what's going on with that , because that'll help me to get back out and do some of the things that I want to do . But I look forward to all the things . I want to dance more . Now I don't know where we're going to dance dance at it's considered we ain't got nowhere to go .

Speaker 3 17:22

Calories is there no but yeah , I want to dance more . I want to . I love my ivs . Um , I love my facials and and stuff as well . I I love my Netflix days . I love our girlfriend times out . I love and I just said to Sharice I think I told you too , stephanie like we need to all get together in our EPs and just celebrate this . You know I love when it's somebody's birthday .

Speaker 4 17:49

That's self-care to me .

Speaker 3 17:50

Like when I'm with my friends . That's part of my self-care .

Speaker 1 17:55

Just letting go ? I think we don't . I don't know how to let go . And when I say let go , I think everything have to happen now , especially the entrepreneurial side of you . You just feel like gosh , I have to do this and I don't know if it's control some well , part of it is control , but you , you and I have tried to pass things off and when things aren't done , correctly and you have to go back and do it again yourself .

Speaker 3 18:23

anyway , you're like , well , hell , I might as well just do it , so you can't release the control , but we have to figure it out .

Speaker 1 18:30

We have to figure it out so that we can enjoy truly enjoy the fruits of our life . Take breaks and enjoy the fruits of our life take breaks and enjoy the food and whatever .

Speaker 3 18:39

And I love traveling , oh my gosh , traveling is self-care one of the best trips ever and we have been to some great places . I just come back from egypt . Um , I know you love hawaii , yes , and we don't know where the hell to find you , honey . You be everywhere , you know . You just come back from Mexico City . All of that , but my bestest and favoritest , most wonderfulest trip was when we went to Orlando . It didn't even matter that it was , you know , stateside it was just a few hours .

Speaker 2 19:12

It was because we got to hang out .

Speaker 3 19:14

Together , you know you brought your spouses and girlfriends and our kids , our adult children . Adult . Adult children , you know , and we just got to just hang out . I missed most of that I did yeah we had a ball .

Speaker 5 19:30

Because I got cold .

Speaker 1 19:31

Yeah .

Speaker 5 19:32

And left . It was cold . I had never been so cold in my no in the house . It was cold .

Speaker 3 19:38

She said it was cold in the house . I couldn't .

Speaker 5 19:41

I was freezing upstairs and I couldn't take any more . I was like , oh God , remember they didn't have a lot of , because it's Florida .

Speaker 2 19:51

It's just .

Speaker 5 19:53

We went to the store .

Speaker 3 19:53

We went to Walmart , brought us some blankets .

Speaker 1 19:55

And washcloths . It's just , I can't stand . We went to the store .

Speaker 3 19:57

We went to Walmart . Bought us some blankets mmhmm , that's too many words .

Speaker 5 19:58

Washcloths right and washcloths but the time I was there , yeah , we all went out to eat and just hanging around the house talking shit mmhmm cooking .

Speaker 3 20:05

We had good food that was great , nothing special , but it's part of the self care , it's fellowship , right it's ?

Speaker 1 20:11

fellowship and it wasn't work . Yeah , yes , it was not work , right , so it didn't matter where we were , we had a great time , it was great , so I'm looking forward to being able to do more of that .

Speaker 3 20:24

Um , I'm looking forward to I don't know , we have never been out dancing ellery's okay we're gonna go to eloise , we're just going .

Speaker 5 20:34

Y'all are going to have the best time of y'all life . It's a dance club for older people . Everybody in there dances . The dance floor is never empty . You just have gentlemen come up and say can I dance with you ? You're like yeah , it's just great , it's an old people dance club .

Speaker 1 20:52

They're going to have all purple suits with purple shoes .

Speaker 5 20:55

All yellow , shoes with yellow shoes .

Speaker 1 20:59

You're going to cut a rug . All red suits with red hats .

Speaker 5 21:01

And they're going to take you back to your seat . Thank you , young lady .

Speaker 2 21:05

They ain't buying drinks .

Speaker 5 21:07

Yeah , they ain't buying drinks , they just going to stand , you ready to dance again . No , but you have a good time . It's just genuinely a good time .

Speaker 1 21:14

You know what . So I don't even know if I can dance like that anymore . You'll be Well , they can either .

Speaker 5 21:20

So they'll be out there cutting the rug , because I used to dance a lot and all you need is that little two-step that's all we old people do you got those little One and two .

Speaker 3 21:29

One and two . You see me like that Like that's what we'll do .

Speaker 5 21:32

That's what we ? Young lady . One and two , one and two , one and two , that's it Okay . Will you really ?

Speaker 2 21:44

Are you doing all that ? I'm doing some .

Speaker 4 21:46

Oh they're going to love that .

Speaker 1 21:46

They're going to love it . They're going to drag her outside .

Speaker 5 21:49

They're going to wash the front door . The lady going to disappear . Where are you ? Some lady gonna disappear .

Speaker 1 21:57

Somebody's gonna have a heart attack but it's a good time to be had in here .

Speaker 5 22:03

It really is , stephanie , you plan it okay , for real , I'm playing because you talk about it all the time . You keep saying we need to go , we're gonna dance , we're gonna go .

Speaker 3 22:07

I'm gonna tell you the last time that I went out , y'all gonna crack a laugh and oh god um

Therapy and Mental Health Care

Speaker 3 22:15

, I didn't know they existed . I actually went to a place that was for Mediterranean men and women were in there .

Speaker 4 22:25

So the belly dancing .

Speaker 5 22:27

Cafe .

Speaker 3 22:27

Istanbul . No , it wasn't Cafe Istanbul . No , this was actually a club . But for their people and they danced on the tables . Was it Alparazza ?

Speaker 5 22:44

No , no it was more um , um Tucker .

Speaker 3 22:47

Shambly some kind of that area um of Atlanta , but yeah , but the funny thing was they were playing Mediterranean music .

Speaker 4 22:58

They were breaking plates and stuff all over the place they were . They were dancing on tables place . They were dancing on tables .

Speaker 3 23:03

The women were dancing on tables . I mean , I'm talking about like , if you wanted to just get up on the table , you could dance on the table and all that kind of stuff , but they were playing our music .

Speaker 5 23:11

Wait a minute .

Speaker 1 23:12

But it was like in my full bottom jeans On top of our music .

Speaker 3 23:16

Yes , but it might have been apple bottom jeans .

Speaker 1 23:21

In their language , but it wasn't Nelly .

Speaker 5 23:23

Oh my gosh .

Speaker 3 23:25

It was Mohammed Singing Apple Bottom Jeans . That is so neat , but you're sitting there like You're sitting there like that's not Nelly . Yeah , you're sitting there like that's the last time that I've been on . It's been that long how long ago . Oh my God , really , yeah , it's been that long . Oh damn , it's been that long For real .

Speaker 5 23:52

Look at the opening line we're going to get out .

Speaker 3 23:56

We're going to get out . I'm going to see my therapist first .

Speaker 5 23:59

No , you can get out before then I got to see my therapist . We're planning everything .

Speaker 1 24:03

You're going to see your therapist and we're going to take a belly dancing class . Y'all going to love it ?

Speaker 5 24:08

Yeah , I know I will . You're going to love it .

Speaker 3 24:10

First of all , it's actually exercise .

Speaker 2 24:14

You don't think you're going to be sweating , but you will sweat .

Speaker 3 24:17

It's because it is actually cardio and exercise , but it comes handy in other areas .

Speaker 5 24:23

Listen , I'm going to the grocery store . Behind my thing , you know what I learned . I'm going down the aisle . They be like this lady . What is she doing ? I'm going to be terrible if I learn how to do it .

Speaker 3 24:35

It is so funny , but you're going to learn to isolate different parts of your body Everywhere .

Speaker 5 24:40

Everywhere I'm showing out . You're going to kill , right , You're going to kill , Not even for that . I'm talking about just walking down the street . No , that's not . Hey , they be like she done . Learned how to belly dance . I been wanting to .

Speaker 2 24:53

Yeah , I can do it , ooh .

Speaker 3 25:00

Yeah , I love it Look right , I'm adding this exercise , you're just doing that I'm tired what else is just eight ? You just ain't gonna blame it on the food shoot .

Speaker 2 25:11

We're gonna blame it on the food , but yeah , so you gotta take care of yourself .

Speaker 3 25:13

We are , we are stretched thin , we are very busy . We we taking care of other , everybody we're taking care of businesses , which means clients're taking care of businesses which means clients . Because , clients seem like you know you got to set them boundaries with your clients because they think they can call you any time of morning any time of night . Because you work at night . You think you're supposed to call me when you get off . Right . You know all those kind of things , but we're stretched very , very thin .

Speaker 5 25:37

All women are , so I think it's important for all women to take a break and take care of themselves sooner or it will show Sooner .

Speaker 4 25:46

And your health ?

Speaker 3 25:46

Yeah , it will manifest in your health , your stress , mm-hmm . Your finances . Yep , your hair start thinning .

Speaker 4 25:54

Yeah , you know all those different things Stress down and y'all see these wrinkle-free faces .

Speaker 3 25:59

Y'all see these , honey , and y'all see these wrinkle-free faces , honey . This is called timeless over here . This is called timeless over here , y'all see , these wrinkle-free faces , y'all see these wrinkle-free faces .

Speaker 5 26:08

I got something on my forehead .

Speaker 3 26:10

You better take care of yourself .

Speaker 4 26:15

Not a little Botox won't fix my head .

Speaker 2 26:17

One thing we didn't really delve into is the therapy .

Speaker 5 26:21

That's a better form of self-care .

Speaker 2 26:23

Speaking to somebody , a professional sometimes about some of the things we're going through can be a form of therapy and self-care for us as well .

Speaker 3 26:30

Oh yeah , I know I'm going to start my therapy .

Speaker 5 26:34

My therapist got to get ready because she's going to every week be tuning in like . Game of Thrones because I got so much to unpack . She's going to be like man Okay , Every week .

Speaker 3 26:44

I didn't know where you was going .

Speaker 5 26:45

Okay , I need , yeah , I need a lot .

Speaker 3 26:49

Yeah , I do . Come sit on the couch , you do , baby . She said I need a lot of therapy .

Speaker 4 26:53

A whole sitcom . So what ?

Speaker 5 26:55

happened again this week , so then I went into the yeah .

Speaker 3 26:59

I went into the . It's going to be a lot .

Speaker 5 27:01

Your therapist is going to need therapy after me it's going to be a whole sitcom .

Speaker 1 27:07

But we do . It's the best thing . I can truly say , though , that has been the best thing ever for me . I've come full circle and I know I'm a very different person because of it , because we need our therapist , our OBGYN , yep , pediatricians . If you have little kids , we don't what was that we're making sure everything's right .

Speaker 3 27:29

We're just making sure everything's right . Our hairdressers .

Speaker 1 27:31

You know , there's just some people we just got to have on deck . But a therapist needs to really be a part of that .

Speaker 5 27:37

I don't know why we run from it , but , um , I think we're busy because I want to say for me I always said I'm I'm gonna go to therapy , but really I'm like when do I have they're ?

Speaker 1 27:45

all online now you could do it online you don't have to leave , so , but that is a part of self-care taking the time to even do that yeah , because you find time for everything else you need to do and everybody else .

Speaker 2 27:57

Yeah , you gotta find the time for you to get what you need to Talk these people head off .

Speaker 5 28:02

Yeah , that's what they're there for . Yeah . We can have one coming near you , oh goodness .

Speaker 3 28:09

Well we're not gonna play a game today , but I think we have a caller . And again , you guys follow us on all our social media platforms . We put up questions every week , a couple of different questions , questions . You do not have to write us . Y'all can leave us a voicemail , go to timeless and unfilteredcom and leave usa voicemail right through our website . You don't have to tell us your whole full name . You got to worry about it . Just this is legra from georgia . You know , which is just fine , and we want to hear from you .

Faith, Meditation, and Spiritual Wellness

Speaker 5 28:44

Well , it requires that before you close out .

Speaker 3 28:45

Yeah , so we can put you on our email list , but call in and participate . We want to hear from you , we want to feel you , we want to hear your emotions .

Speaker 2 28:55

We don't want the anonymous callers , because those might be the best callers , the anonymous callers Well we got a couple that made some interesting calls .

Speaker 4 29:03

Let's see who we have today For my self-care when I wake in the morning , the first thing I do is make myself a cup of coffee and go into my prayer room and pray and meditate for myself , my family and my friends . It gives me the calm I need to start my day .

Speaker 3 29:23

Now , how do we forget Jesus ? Y'all are heathens .

Speaker 5 29:30

God is my center .

Speaker 2 29:31

He knows my heart .

Speaker 5 29:33

How do we forget ?

Speaker 2 29:34

Jesus .

Speaker 5 29:35

But that's great and she said she started off with her coffee . Coffee and Jesus .

Speaker 3 29:41

Coffee come before Jesus . Jesus coffee . No , jesus coffee , jesus coffee . Oh goodness , I have to not to make this a religious thing , but I have to say that when I'm off center I got to get in the closet . Oh yeah , I got to get in the closet when I'm off center and sometimes I don't realize I'm off center . And then I also read a book called the Prayer of Jabez . Y'all probably heard me say that 10,000 times . I told y'all to read the book . It worked .

Speaker 3 30:09

In the name of Jesus , it worked , so I can't believe I didn't say oh my God , I got to pray and meditate . But I'm so off center Sometimes , when the noise won't stop , I try to pray , and then sometimes I'll just say I'm not even going to pray , I'm just going to sit still because I can't pray like when I try to pray then and then

Speaker 3 30:34

like all these other things be coming in , and sometimes I'll just say I'm not going to think about anything . I'm not going to think about anything , I'm not going to think about anything , I'm just going to be quiet . And then I'll sit there and then sometimes those thoughts are coming in and I'll just have to tell myself don't think about anything , don't think about anything , I'm just going to sit quiet and I'll receive whatever you have for me , lord . But sometimes it is hard to cut that noise off because your brain .

Speaker 3 30:59

Y'all know , my brain don't stop .

Speaker 5 31:01

I'm trying to figure out the next next .

Speaker 2 31:03

To the next of the next .

Speaker 3 31:04

So it's hard to cut that off . My son and I talk about this all the time . We might need to be checked . I might need to be checked for ADHD because my brain is so . It just won't stop . I think that's a lot of us . Yeah , it won't stop , won't stop , and sometimes you got to figure out how to cut that off .

Speaker 2 31:20

I read a book about that , but I can't remember the name right now , but it was really good , but you have to read it more than one time , obviously because it . It's not working right now but , it's not working right now . It's really good but it's not working right now .

Speaker 3 31:31

Well , part of this old age .

Speaker 2 31:33

I have a bad memory as well so I read it , but I don't remember everything I read , so I need to read it again but it was good to help .

Speaker 3 31:40

Part of me . Not reading is my vision .

Speaker 4 31:44

That's audio books .

Speaker 3 31:46

Yeah , because my vision has also changed . So there's a lot going on . Get to therapy y'all , Y'all . Go see y'all therapist . I'm going to see my therapist .

Speaker 1 31:56

Shutting down those tabs . We have so many tabs open .

Speaker 2 31:59

It's like the computer .

Speaker 4 32:00

We keep them open .

Speaker 5 32:01

It's like how do ?

Speaker 3 32:02

you shut all these tabs down , but we'll figure it out you just got to take those moments , though I find that the IV is really a great time for me to shut down , because they got this massage chair that's like a spaceship .

Speaker 1 32:14

Oh , my goodness , that's like a spaceship . I remember that .

Speaker 3 32:16

So it massages your butt , your thighs , the back of your calves .

Speaker 1 32:21

Yeah you being out here tonight . A couple of times I said hey , hey , hey , hey , hey , who's back there ?

Speaker 2 32:26

But you touch it now .

Speaker 3 32:28

It's like a spaceship . It hits your shoulders , the thing rolls all up under your butt and I say hey , that ain't my butt .

Speaker 1 32:34

Now Stop Wait a minute . Wait a minute , Right Feel trick .

Speaker 3 32:37

She said she said peltry oh , it's like a space chair . You know , you forget that iv is in your arm . That thing is so relaxed , and then it's got something going on with your feet , so it's rubbing your feet at the same time . It's like a spaceship yes though yeah , that's , that's .

Speaker 1 32:51

I like that .

Speaker 5 32:52

So we go there after we go to ellery get rubbed down like get replenished with all our electrolytes from dancing all night yeah , it'll be great , that's all right , that's all right but there's also you need to increase your collagen .

Speaker 3 33:07

College , I think it's collagen too that focuses on your joints and yeah , so let me know when it is , because I can start taking my collagen earlier .

Speaker 5 33:15

Let me get it now .

Speaker 3 33:16

Let me get it now early because these joints and stuff , because i'm'm going to feel it the

Final Thoughts on Self-Care

Speaker 3 33:22

next day . Hello , it will be worth it . It will Look . Did we help you at all ? Talk about all the things we do .

Speaker 1 33:32

You know y'all be over helping by the time we get done talking . I'd be like shit . Okay , I just had a simple ass question .

Speaker 5 33:39

Here we go .

Speaker 1 33:41

It turns into a lot more . But kudos to , like you said , the young girls . Who's figuring this out ? And doing their thing and taking care of themselves , because it's something we sure weren't taught at all .

Speaker 3 33:51

Well for y'all not to have been taking care of yourself .

Speaker 1 33:53

Y'all looked at it , we do Amazing .

Speaker 3 33:56

The grace of God .

Speaker 5 33:57

The grace of God . Genetics .

Speaker 1 34:02

Let's just say genetics yeah my mama looked timeless that is something to be said , though you , we , you're going to do a whole series on that , because there is something to be said about sitting here at our ages and really we look great .

Speaker 3 34:20

Yeah , we do so you know we need to talk about that . You know we don't have our best friend . We call our best friend Dawn , Our best friend Dawn this is our best friend Dawn . We have our best friend Dawn come in and talk to us about some things with our skin and skin care and fillers and Botox and hydrochloric acid .

Speaker 4 34:41

Yeah , yeah all the things acid , yeah , yeah , all the things to keep your face Hydrolyronic .

Speaker 3 34:46

There you go .

Speaker 4 34:47

Something like that Start with an H . You see it on all the commercials .

Speaker 5 34:50

Hydro , something , all that good stuff , all that good stuff Hydrolyronic , all right , let's see but we done heard from our caller .

Speaker 3 34:58

We done chit-chat and shoot the shit .

Speaker 5 35:00

Yes so .

Speaker 3 35:01

I think it's time to go . Y'all want to wrap this up . Yes , got another episode . Please be sure to follow us , timeless and Unfiltered . I'm Begra , I'm Stephanie , I'm Cherise and Vanya , and y'all subscribe so y'all can hear us spilling the tea on Midlife . One laugh at a time . All right , y'all Bye .